As Bigg Boss 13 has come to an end- a rather controversial end- those who spent the last 3 months in the house are getting back to normalcy. One of the finalists of the show- Rashami Desai is doing just the same.
We met Rashami for a chat on her journey in the show, how Arhaan Khan's secrets broker her down during the show, how she picked up from there. We also spoke about the prize money (which Paras opted for and left the show) and if she would participate in any Swayamvar to find a life partner. Excerpts from the conversation below:
Sidharth Shukla is the Bigg Boss 13 winner. Deserving?
From whatever I have seen during his journey in the show, all I can say is he has done good for himself. But if it comes about deserving- Asim Riaz was more deserving that Sidharth. I could see myself also as a winner in spite of lagging behind. I was also a tough competition to them. However, I am not questioning Sidharth's win. It's just that Asim's journey graph has shown more growth. He has given content in every manner. I am sure audience must have got to learn a lot from this new guy.
But People are calling it a biased decision and also feel that Sidharth was favoured throughout...
I would not like to comment on that because the show format was very different. At the end sab janta ke haath mein tha. To janta ko jo pasand aaya unhone chun liya.
When Bigg Boss offered Rs 10 lakhs, you didn't go for it...
Yes, because I was very sure that audience and my fans will choose me as a winner.
How heartbreaking was it when Rohit Shetty announced your elimination?
See we all four were well-deserving. It didn't pinch me that bad when I was sent home because this show has given me a lot and I have tried giving my best. A lot of people have praised me including media who has given me immense support, which was beyond my expectation. So, I think whatever happened, happened for good.
We saw a lot of ups and downs in your journey. Any situation you came across inside, which made you feel kaash maine ye show nahi kiya hota?
I think agar maine ye show nahi kiya hota to main bhaut saari situations mein hoti. I think darke sehamke hi sahi but I took the right decision to be part of the show.
Who convinced you to take up this Season as you have refused many before?
It was my own decision. I felt this was the right time to say 'Yes' and I did.
Were you hesitant because you didn't want to be a part of it because of its controversial nature?
You can say that but it is important to eat the piece of cake which I did.
Your fights with Sidharth Shukla was most talked about. What was actually wrong between you guys?
I used to hate the way he used to talk. Not just me but most of the girls inside thought the same. Also, hamare point of views kabhi nahi mile. But by the end of the Season, things got normal between us. Besides Sidharth, I have also fought with Asim and Paras. Mahira used to target me for a lot of things but all that I handled beautifully but he used to again and again say bad things about me. So, I had to give a strong reaction.
The 'Aisi Ladki' comment controversy made a lot of noise in the outside world...
I am a person who will always take the stand for right and will never allow someone to put a girl down. Not just me but I have taken a stand for Shehnaaz Gill and Shefali Jariwala also. But about the 'Aisi ladki' fight, I really didn't know it has created such a big impact outside. It is really heart-touching.
But you threw hot tea on him, was that justified?
He was continuously saying, 'mujhe pata hai tu kaisi hai?' And it wasn't for the first time that he was targetting my character. Even during the Pasta fight, he did the same. He was provoking me a lot, of course, I lost it by the end of it and threw tea on him. Also, I wanted him to speak his mind- whatever he had inside his brain, he should speak out. And later, Salman sir also told him what he is doing isn't right.
Coming to Arhaan Khan, is that chapter closed forever?
Did he try to get in touch with you when you came out?
As of now we both haven't tried communicating with each other. But I was expecting a response as he was showing so much concern when I was locked inside. During the show, he tried to send out messages through people and now when I am out he has no concern, which is strange. But I want to wish him a happy life wherever he is. May god bless him.
Were you actually shattered knowing Arhaan Khan is married with a 6-year-old kid?
It was a very difficult time for me. Ghar ke andar us maahol ko handle karna was not easy. Initially, when Salman sir said about his marriage I was shocked but then I tried to maintain my calm and showed that I know it because I didn't want to harm his personality but then when his kid topic came out, I was taken aback ki itni badi baat mujhse chhupai. I was shattered.
He tried his best to convince me giving various reasons and somewhere I got convinced also. But even after that, his various connections, messages and truth kept coming out. So, then I decided that it's not working and I can't be with him. Aisi feeling aa rahi hai ki aap kisiko khule aur saaf dil se pyaar karo aur vo aapko istemaal kar jaaye. But I believe in God and karma.
Salman Khan entered the house to console you...
Yes, and that very moment I felt someone from my family has come. The way he explained me and consoled me, mujhe himmat mili show mein rehne ki. Honestly, I was so disturbed that I immediately wanted to leave the house. I was broken and didn't want my pain to come out in front of cameras. I am extremely thankful to Salman Sir for getting his reality out.
Did you meet Salman post the show? He advised you on something?
I didn't get a chance to meet him and talk about anything. But whenever I meet him next, I would thank him for all his love and support. He knows a lot about me and I am grateful that he did this for me.
Will it be difficult to trust a man again?
For me, settling down with the right person is more important. And I think I am capable enough to take care of myself. I don't need somebody to take care of me. I really need somebody to give me that company and fill me with lot of other things. And give me happy life which I expect from my partner. And I will also do the same for my partner.
Any plans to find a right partner and get married?
Right now I just want to focus on myself and my career. Marriage is definitely there on my mind and I am looking for all good things in life. I am going to cherish all my moments.
What if you were approached for a Swayamvar like Shehnaz, would you have done it?
Definitely not. I am not a person who will look for a life partner on a reality show.
We saw you warming up to Himanshi again. Have you forgiven her for being Arhaan's messenger?
She didn't do a crime which cant be forgiven. She definitely hurt me then but didn't con me. So, I have decided to let go of things and be friends with her as she is a wonderful girl.
You think Devoleena Bhattacharjee is a true friend?
She is someone who I will never leave. Bigg Boss has gifted me Devoleena and the kind of connection we have and the way we handle each other is beautiful. I feel blessed that in a very short span of time, I found someone who just came back to the show to get me out of the mess which I was going through. Jaise usne mujhe bina koi expectation samjhaya and pyaar diya usse zyada aap zindagi mein kuch nahi kama sakte. Aapne insaan kama liya vo aapke liye bhaut badi baat hai.
How was the feeling meeting your mother after so long?
Aisa laga jaise Bigg Boss ne mujhe gold ki thaali mein bhaut kuch de diya hai. Journey inside was difficult but life outside has become beautiful for me.
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