Nandita Das First Suggested That We Separate, We Had Grown Apart: Subodh Maskara

... 'And I said maybe you are right', says her entrepreneur-actor husband Subodh, who spoke to EXCLUSIVE from Spain about what went wrong in their 7-year- old shaadi

Extremely sorry to call you like this at the start of a New Year, but it's the call of duty. I had spoken to you about the buzz about the differences between Nandita and you in June(Trouble in Nandita Das-Subodh Maskara’s paradise?, June 17 2016).Now, we learn that you'll have dissolved your marriage...
Let me be very honest with you. I wanted to call you and tell you myself about it.

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What went wrong? Was it sudden?
It wasn't sudden. Sometimes you realise that it's better to be just friends and move on. It just makes makes both of us happy.

As and when the world knows about it, it looks sudden- but as I said, it was not. It was a case of 'We grew apart'. Our priorities and lifestyles became different.

We tried to make it work but unfortunately could not. We parted amicably.

Does your son Vihaan stay with Nandita or you?
We have two homes- one in Worli, the other in Bandra. Vihaan will stay as and where he wants. Right now, he is with me in Spain. Nandita will stay in Bandra now. Think of it, we are 15 minutes away from each other (Courtesy, Sea Link).

How did lifestyles change? You knew she was an actress...
It's hard to pinpoint and answer this question. It's hard to answer why two people fall in love, similarly it's equally hard to answer why two people grow apart. We have had a very friendly separation, we still talk to each other daily. We are feeling happier, we are feeling lighter. I repeat, we parted amicably.

Guess because you guys are not 20-something. Both are mature... 

Exactly, so there's no negativity.

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Was it tough to explain it to your parents and in-laws?
My father passed away sometime back. My mom wants to know that why can't we remain as husband and wife when we can be such good friends. But she is happy, as long as we are happy.

Why can't two friends stay married happily?

There are different expectations in marriage than in friendship.

No court battle?
No chance. Plus, there is nothing like we want to get married again rightaway and so we should head to the Court. When Nandita left, she didn't even say 'I want this and I want that'. I said 'Sorry, it didn't work out'. It was very sad but yet it was a very normal parting.

There was no third person involved?
Not at all.

Who said it first: Let's end the marriage?
We both were feeling it, she suggested one day and I said 'Maybe you're right'.

So I said 'Let's stay apart and see how it works out'.

Will you marry again or you won't?
Aisa kuch nahi hai. I have ventured into many businesses, some have failed and some have not. Girke tootke vapas khade ho jana chahiye. I am an eternal optimist.

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