Last night, we brought you the beginning of our
interview with Pooja Bisht who parted ways with Ssharad Malhotra
recently. The actress was candid about all that transpired between them.
She is still in the same mode for the remaining part of our chat.
Here is it in verbatim:
Did you ask Ssharad Malhotra for marriage?
I never asked him for marriage. In fact, he was asking me to marry him.
Frankly, even I wouldn't be able to tell why he did what he did. Really, God knows what happened.
But maybe like everything happens for good, I think this one too must be having its silver lining.
Since how long was he asking you for marriage?
He has been asking me for marriage from Day 1. He even spoke to my mom about it--- and then vanished.
Yes. Again he popped up the same question after six months.
This was almost a repeated thing that was happening- he would ask for my hand and then after few days, say, 'No, I am not ready for marriage yet. Hamari ladaiyaan ho rahi hai'.
Strange indeed. God knows what's wrong with him.
Okay. And then?
I retorted: "I never asked you for marriage. I never asked you even for a commitment. Why are you doing this?" And then we called it a day.
What was the flashpoint?
He came and told me said that he is dev gan and I am rakshas gan. He said that according to his astrologer we shouldn't get married else something terrible will happen.
I tried to reason with him that his astrologer has not told him the right things, but he wouldn"t listen. Woh toh Kasam TV serial ka story hai, usne mujhpe chipka diya.
I even told him that what if I would prove that the dev gan and rakshas gan thing he is selling me is not true. You see, I am manushya gan and not rakshas gan. I asked him if I give him the facts, would he marry me? And you know what? He said, "No, I still can't marry you."
Despite he going back and forth on shaadi, why did you continue to date him for so long?
Yes, I was dating him for a long time. But now, I am paying for it na?.
But you know, that's also because he told me that a couple of things were not going good in his life.
He told me that his father was ill and he can't raise the topic of marriage in his family.
Time kept rolling by and I failed to see his intentions. I thought jab karni hogi usko shaadi mere saath toh kar lega. Overall mota mota agar relationship mein theek chal raha hai toh it is very difficult to read your partner.
What did your parents think of Ssharad?
To be honest, when they came to know of my relationship with him, they told me: You know what he did to Divyanka na? Lekin maine unko bola, we all have different equations with different people and he should not be judged on his previous relationship.
Today? Today, my mom is very angry. FYI, we haven't matched kundlis from our side yet. Lekin khair abhi better hai khatam hi ho gaya.
Is it going to be easy for you to forget him?
Well, I did everything for him and I feel pity that people are talking sh** about him.
Do you know that Ssharad himself leaked out the story of his breakup with you to the media?
Yes, I am aware (pauses).
I have given 200 per cent in my relationship with Ssharad. I had been so patient with him. He has many mood-swings.
I am very hurt. Our relationship was one where we were like two best friends. We shared everything with each other. I remember telling him once that if he ever didn't want to marry me, he should ask me to go out from his life without playing games.But he did just the opposite.
His astrologer advised him to not marry you, but he didn't want to continue as a lover either. Right?
Yeah, but what would have been the sense in that relationship? A relationship which based on what an astrologer thinks! And so, he stopped feeling the connect with me!
He did something similar to Divyanka...
Haan lekin ab main kya bolun? Lekin haan, conclusion toh yehi nikal raha hai.
I don't think he'll come back, he is too egoistic.
Was Ssharad cheating on you?
I have never said that he was cheating per se on me. But yes, he was behaving very funny since the past 45 days. He was meeting her behind my back, He lied to me that he met only because his manager fixed up the meeting. And you know what? That girl changed her Insta handle within hours after I confronted Ssharad on her.
Worse still, when I told him to show me the screenshots of his chat with that girl. You will be shocked what he replied! He said: 'Main teesri ladki ki izzat nahin uchalunga'.
And he could do that to two of his earlier girlfriends? Do you know that he himself had leaked out the story of your breakup with him to the media? He did the same when he split with Divyanka...
Yes, I am aware. What more can I say? Just shows what kind of a person he is. I pity him. He is making a fool of himself.
Seems, he is a very complicated person...
He is very complicated. He doesn't know what he wants to do in life. He wants everything and wants many 'yes' men around him, he doesn't want people who have an opinion. In his relationships there is only one person- and that is he himself, the other person does not exist,.It became very difficult to adjust with him anymore.
In hindsight, has the breakup come as a blessing in disguise?
Now of course, I would say 'yes'
Did he ever hit or abuse you?
No, never. But he used to yell at me.
Do you think he was not able to forget Divyanka?
I don't know. We hardly spoke about Divyanka, maybe just once or twice. Ab jo chala gaya so chala gaya, main usko kya poochti rehti? Even after Divyanka, he dated many girls.
Do you think he was faithful to you during the entire 2 1/2 years?
I think he was. It was just this Insta girl which added to our problems.
Did he ever check your phone?
We never had trust issues.
Elaborate on his mood-swings...
Sometimes very happy, sometimes very angry, sometimes didn't want to talk. I think he gave his best in our initial days, but later started taking me for granted.
At the end of it all, I think he has found somebody (Read: Insta girl) new and they both were planning to start something together. If he has only a professional relationship with her, why didn't he show me the screenshots of his chat. He should have said it on my face that he doesn't like me anymore and wants someone new in his life.
Has this all made you a man-hater?
No. Why would I start hating men just because of one guy who is marriage-phobic and has problems? But why would every other guy be like him?
Maybe he is someone who doesn't want to take responsibility in life...
Is he a teenager? He can't go on playing with people, again and again. He did mistakes in the past, and when still someone (Pooja) trusted him, he broke her trust too.
Have you ever met Divyanka? Have you'll ever had a conversation?